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How to Calm a Cat

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Whether you are a cat lover or not, no one wants to deal with an upset, agitated cat. Cats get upset over many things: car trips, visits to the veterinarian, the noise from loud storms, strangers in the house, a strange cat outside the house, or a variety of other things. If a cat is so upset that it is growling, meowing horribly, or frantically racing around a room seeking a hiding spot, then it may need your help to return to calmness. Begin trying to calm your cat by controlling its environment and giving it some space. If that doesn't work, you may need to consult your veterinarian for medical options that could help your cat.


Approaching an Excited or Nervous Cat

  1. Think of your and your cat's safety first.Only approach the cat if it is necessary to do so, such as a trip to the vet. The majority of agitated cats benefit from being left in peace, rather than being petted or picked up. If you do have to approach the cat, the very first thing you need to do when your cat is upset is to protect yourself and then the cat. Scared or aroused cats can and will bite their owners and they will scratch. This displaced aggression means your cat is so upset that it will bite or scratch anyone handy if it cannot get at the object or thing making it upset.
    • It is imperative that you approach your upset cat with extreme caution.
    • Approach the cat cautiously, preferably wearing long sleeves and pants.
    • Have a towel handy in case you need to catch your cat.
  2. Use a calm voice and calm behavior.Talk to your cat calmly. For example, say "It's okay, Peaches, it's okay. Shh. Shh." Sit quietly and wait for your cat to calm down, and let it realize you mean it no harm and don't pose a threat.
    • Speak quietly and in a lower pitched voice.
    • Singing can soothe or relax your cat, much like talking quietly. Singing anything from an upbeat song to a slow melody can work. Just don't sing loudly, harshly, or anything with rapidly changing pitches.
    • Play something softly on the TV.
  3. Lure the cat towards you.Feed your cat some food if it is still skittish. Wet food is usually more appealing to cats than dry food and fish has an even greater odor than meat.
    • Let the cat climb to a higher place to allow it to feel safe and able to see what is going on.
    • If possible, stroke the cat's face by running your thumb lightly up from the bridge of the cat's nose.
  4. Move the cat into isolation if it is still upset.Placing the cat in a confined space where it can be alone should help it to calm itself down.Close all doors to the area your cat is in, close shades, blinds, or drapes on windows so it cannot see outside. Remove children and other pets from the area as well. The aim is to provide a calm, non-threatening environment so that cat's anxiety levels fall.
    • To move the cat to a room it can be alone in, wrap the cat in a towel snuggly with only its head sticking out, much like a burrito. Then you can place it in a quiet room, like a bedroom, along with access to a litter box, until it is calm once more.

Finding Long-Term Solutions For Nervous or Excited Cats

  1. Figure out what is making your cat agitated.After the emergency is over, you need to reassess the situation. What in particular set your cat off? If it was a one-time occurrence, such as workers in the house, you can anticipate for next time and put your cat in a quiet room until they leave. If it was a stray cat outside, you can use techniques to rid yourself of stray cats, such as water sprinklers or chemical sprays that deter cats from your yard.
    • If it is a problem that is likely to recur (such as trips in the car, company, thunderstorms) you can take some steps to help your cat better cope with the situation.
  2. Use pheromones to calm your cat.Pheromones are chemicals released from glands on the cat's body—face, feet, back and tail—that cats release to communicate with other cats. Certain pheromones, such as those released from the cats face when they rub on objects or their humans, have a calming effect on stressed cats.
    • Scientists have managed to synthesize these chemicals which come in various forms such as collars, sprays, wipes, and plug-in diffusers.
  3. Use other non-medication calming aids.There are a few other non-medicated options available to calm an anxious or stressed cat. Essential oils or herbal blends can mimic pheromones and can be tried in place of the synthetic pheromones. Food supplements have also proved helpful to relieve anxiety and stress in cats. The ingredients in these supplements help to support the cat’s natural chemical balance to aid in relaxation. They come in liquid, chew and tablet forms.
    • Body wraps (thunder shirts or anxiety wraps) are another non-medication calming aids. These cloth and Velcro wraps wrap around the cat’s body and exert gentle pressure on pressure points which aid in calming cats. The principle is similar to swaddling an infant or wrapping the cat into a towel.
    • Not every cat will respond positively to having to wear a wrap or to the pheromones or blends. You may have a period of trial and error to see what response your kitty has to these products.
  4. Consider using short-term medication.Some cats have a certain chemical makeup that necessitates the use of medications to help them cope with anxiety or stress producing situations. There are short-term options to use for the occasional trip in the car or visits from certain people your cat has taken a disliking too. Various medications are available to sedate a cat for a short term, temporary situation. These medications require an examination and a prescription from a veterinarian make certain the cat is healthy enough to take them.
    • Not all cats react the same to the same medication, so most veterinarians will suggest an initial trial with a medication while at home to gauge your cat’s reaction to the sedative.
    • Keep in mind, some sedatives need to be given an hour or so prior to travel or anticipated stressful event so the cat doesn’t override the medication effects due to a buildup of anticipation anxiety.
  5. Discuss with your vet the possible sedatives that could help your cat.There are a broad range of sedatives used in cats. They all have side effects and precautions for use especially in cats with health conditions like kidney failure, heart disease, and diabetes. Only your veterinarian can advise you on the right one for your cat. Sedatives used in cats include:
    • Benzodiazepines. Examples are alprazolam, midazolam, and lorazepam. These are the most widely used sedatives in cats. They work almost immediately to reduce fear and anxiety in cats working on the same part of the brain as alcohol does in humans. Note: NEVER give alcohol to a cat.
    • SARI’s. Trazodone is an example of this type of sedative. It works quickly to relieve anxiety.
    • Clonidine and gabapentin. These have sedative and antianxiety effects in animals including cats.
    • Chlorpheniramine and Benadryl are allergy and cold medications which have been used for cat sedation.
    • Phenobarbital is another sedative used in cats.
  6. Explore options for long-term medication.There are long-term solutions for those few cats that are suffering from constant anxiety. In cats with severe, crippling anxiety long-term medication (given daily for months to years) is the best solution to make life more pleasant for them and their humans. Luckily, there are now fairly safe medications which can temper down the chemical imbalances which make life miserable.
    • These medications include: Amitriptyline (an antidepressant that helps animals with anxiety), Buspirone Hydrochloride (helpful with phobias, such as a fear of people in uniform or a fear of thunderstorms), Clomipramine (Clomicalm), and Fluoxetine (Reconcile, Prozac).
    • In order for these drugs to work effectively, they need to “build up” in the cat's body, so it may take up to 6 weeks to find out if they work on the cat.
    • Also, they should not be stopped abruptly or adverse effects might occur. The best remedy is to slowly taper down the medication to give the body a chance to adjust to the medication decrease.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    My 5 month old kitten hates being touched. What can I do?

    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Dr. Elliott is a Veterinarian who specializes in Companion Animal Medicine in England. She registered with the Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons in 1987.
    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Expert Answer
    Be patient with the kitten and encourage them to approach you, rather than force your attention on the kitten. Play with toys that are at a distance, such as a wing-on-a-string, which will help the cat to enjoy your company but without them feeling crowded. Also, drop treats as you walk along so the kitten associates you with good things. As the kitten gets used to your company, wait until they rub against you, before touching them briefly. Gradually build up the number of strokes you give the cat but without overwhelming them.
  • Question
    After I move how can I get an outdoor cat used to being indoors only?

    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Dr. Elliott is a Veterinarian who specializes in Companion Animal Medicine in England. She registered with the Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons in 1987.
    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Expert Answer
    Key to this is making the indoor environment as stimulating and interesting as possible, so the cat can lead a satisfied life indoors. This means providing high perches, plenty of scratch posts, comfortable spots to look out of the window, hiding places, and toys. Also, be sure to actively play with your cat for short periods several times a day. Using puzzle feeders instead of food bowls is also a valuable way to provide mental stimulation.
  • Question
    How can I calm down my cat who meows uncontrollably and gets very angry and agitated?

    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Dr. Elliott is a Veterinarian who specializes in Companion Animal Medicine in England. She registered with the Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons in 1987.
    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Expert Answer
    You are describing a very angry cat. When they're that mad, your best option is to back off and give cats the space and time they need to calm down. Take a look at why the cat got so angry in the first place to see if you can change things so it doesn't happen in the future.
  • Question
    How do I calm a cat down so that it can ride in a car?

    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Dr. Elliott is a Veterinarian who specializes in Companion Animal Medicine in England. She registered with the Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons in 1987.
    Veterinarian, Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons
    Expert Answer
    If the cat dislikes car travel, then use a synthetic cat pheromone spray on the bedding in his box, consider giving a natural remedy such as Skullcup and Valerian, or a nutraceutical such as Zylkene. In addition, get the cat used to each part of what it means to travel in a car, such as being happy in the carrier, calm while in the box in the car with the engine off, then try with the engine on, then with the car moving.
  • Question
    My cat is depressed right now because his brother just passed away. He refuses to eat, drink, even play. What can I do to make him feel better?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Give him some time and a lot of love. Try feeding him treats and/or wet food, or something else he doesn't normally have. Animals grieve just like we do, but they recover. If he hasn't eaten in 48 hours, call a vet and ask for advice.
  • Question
    How do I calm an elderly cat down?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    We recently adopted a 10-year calico. She is very nervous and jumps at the slightest movement or sound. We let her explore the living room and basement (we live in a bi-level home) but we closed off all the other rooms. We coax her out of hiding by calling her name, speaking softly and offering treats. Yesterday we offered her an old sock filled with catnip. She played with it for about 30 minutes. We did not interrupt her play. When she was done she walked away as if she was no longer interested. We put the catnip sock away and she began to sit next to us and let us pet her a little. Now she is sleeping in the cat bed.
  • Question
    I have a blind cat. Which types of toys can I get for him to play with?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Try toys that make noise and are soft to the touch. Toys that contain catnip would be good too, as he'll be able to smell them.
  • Question
    My newly adopted cat has had diarrhea on and off for about a week now - what can I do to help him?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Make sure you are only feeding him cat food, with water to drink. Milk and other human foods can cause diarrhea. If it doesn't go away, take him to a vet.
  • Question
    How do I calm down a very scared 14-week old kitten?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Commence silence in the kitten's environment. Using a gentle but higher toned voice is good with kittens, because they may connect your communication to their very own rather than to just any other cat's meow. Gentle heat is another way to soothe the kitten and help it find comfort due to the warmth that a kitten's mother generates to them in their adolescence.
  • Question
    How do I get a young cat to calm down so that he can heal from surgery?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Make sure the cat is always near the food/water bowls and litter box. And that the food/water bowls are always full in case he needs it. Try to keep the environment as calm and quiet as possible, and speak calmly to him. Initially, the cat should be limited in how much space he can roam in the house. Expand this amount as he begins to heal.
Unanswered Questions
  • What can I do if my female spayed cat reacts badly when she smells a family member's male cat?
  • We have a Persian cat that is 7 months old, and he has been living with us since he was 3.5 months old. Why is he suddenly afraid of all voices?
  • My cat keeps meowing and nipping me, and scratches or bites my hand when I try to pet it on the head. What do I do?
  • My female cat gets very weird when we have company over, and attacks them and corners them and acts very strange. Why would this happen, and can we fix this?
  • My cat lived with 2 dogs now she is scared for random reasons what can I do?
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Quick Summary

To calm a cat that’s agitated, use a quiet voice, lure it to you with food, and try gently petting it from the bridge of the nose up. You can also move your cat to a quiet space by wrapping it tightly in a towel with only its head poking out so it doesn't scratch or bite you. For cats that are frequently nervous, look at long-term solutions such as collars or sprays that have calming pheromones. Finally, there are medications that your vet can prescribe for short and long-term anxiety, such as sedatives for car trips or antidepressants for anxiety.

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  • Make sure you are patient and relaxed as well! Kitty will feed off your energy.
  • If the cat runs away and hides in its area, leave it alone to recover.
  • Sit at a 45-90 degree angle to the cat. This pose is less intimidating and less challenging, and shows them they have an out.
  • Place some food away from the cat then step back, so they feel they can move about more!
  • Don't try to pet the cat if it is agitated. Instead, leave it alone till it has calmed down. Once it does, pet it and give it some TLC.
  • A cat can get agitated and annoyed by being teased and touched too much. Care for your cat like it was your child. Give it nice love and care. Don't go crazy. They're living too.
  • If your cat is scared often, play calming classical music quietly throughout the house.
  • Do not shush your cat, this sounds like a hissing noise which could irritate and stress a cat even more.


  • Do not bring another animal into the room, it may add to your pet's stress.
  • If you reach for a cat and it hisses and/or arches its back, retreat slowly and rethink your strategy.

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